Choosing wisdom over fear

January 22, 2017

Which will you listen to, which will you feed...

There is a beautiful parable out there whose original source is unknown but often attributed to American Indian lore, the Tale of the Two Wolves:


A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always fighting with each other. 


One of them is a "good "wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery, wisdom, and love. The other is a "bad" wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred, and mostly fear.


The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second, then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”


The grandfather quietly replies, "the one you feed."

There is a lot of fear and fighting and anger and confusion going on today. And every day. Out in the world, and within each of us; fear is always behind anger and fighting, as well as depression and hopelessness.

This morning I came across a video of Byron Katie doing a type of coaching called Inquiry, or The Work, which is something that has had a powerful effect on my life and I use in my coaching. In it, Katie (as she's referred to) is doing The Work with a master coach mentor of mine on her fears about a lot of things happening today. 

The distillation of the video comes down to this, connecting back to the wolf parable:


"There are two ways of being proactive (in whatever you are dealing with in your life):

One is acting out of fear. (Lost in a dream of 'what ifs' in the future, a future which doesn't exist - it's this kind of hell, believing the images of the things we fear, which aren't real.)


And the other is acting out of wisdom.


Reality is always kinder than the story (the imagination) we're believing about it.

And wisdom is really thrifty (more effective)."


- Byron Katie


I share this as a potent demonstration of how to challenge our fears and thinking, rather than feed them, so as to get ourselves out of fear and into positive action/proaction. 


I am in a profound time of reflection and letting go of many things in my life. I am seeking to take new directions with my life as well as my coaching. The above is helping me. I don't want to feed my fears any longer. I want to stay connected to my wisdom.

I don't know where it all will lead. I do know where I will stay if I keep feeding my fears and not my wisdom, and I'm not willing to accept that any longer.

I am willing to be in this unknown even though it's often uncomfortable. It actually brings a great freedom and drops me into a field of possibility; I have to remind myself that when nothing is certain, everything is possible.

I'm not sure where you are at in your life related to all I have shared here. I'd be glad to meet you in the field of possibility and wisdom.

With love,


I love the one you feed parable! And is such a good reminder to consider what we spend our energy and effort feeding. (And if you've not heard it, there is a podcast called The One You Feed that is fabulous and is devoted to different stories that relate to the same idea.)
By: Elena on January 25, 2017

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